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12 Steps to Becoming a More Knowing You

These learning modules are aligned to the book. Evidence suggests that ASC and NT adults have even greater differences compared to individuals from completely different cultures (Grigg, 2012; Rodman, 2003; Smith et al., 2020). When added together these differences collectively establish its own culture. The culture of the neurodiverse relationship, therefore is like no other relationship. However, the more informed we are, the better prepared we are to make informed choices. For those who have a desire to know more, to dig deeper and to improve your understanding of the differences and difficulties specific to the neurodiverse relationship, these modules provide additional information on each topic covered in Have They Gone Nuts Book 1. Plus, a few extra bonus topics are also included. The more we know the more we grow.

MODULE ONE: In the Beginning There Was Magic

  • The Historical Context
  • A Lost Generation
  • Characteristics, Qualities and Fundamentals
  • The Cognitive Differences
  • Matters of Gender
  • Matters of Attraction

MODULE TWO: The Mask Begins to Fall

  • Masking: The Art of Camouflage
  • Matters of Stigma
  • Masking Increases Invisibility
  • Constructing Normalcy, Perpetuating Invisibility
  • Fear and Anxiety
  • Intrinsic Motivation

MODULE THREE: The Language of Affection

  • Social Learning
  • Conveying Affection
  • The Alexithymia Affect
  • Expressing Feelings and Emotions
  • Conversing About Personal Matters
  • Deep and Meaningful Conversations

MODULE FOUR: A Collision of Needs

  • Affection and Connection
  • Company Without Connection
  • Reciprocal Interaction
  • Solitude Relieves Tensions
  • Companionship
  • Special Interests are a Refuge

MODULE FIVE: Facing A Different Page

  • Needs Fulfilment
  • Matters of Theory of Mind
  • Matters of Executive Functions
  • Matters Of Self and Other
  • Mentalisation and Empathy
  • A Predicament of Perceptions

MODULE SIX: Slaying the Dragon of Difference

  • Dependence, Independence and Interdependence
  • An Interpersonal Question and Response Shortfall
  • Misinterpretations and Assumptions
  • Prompting
  • Guiding and Directing Conversations
  • Conversation Preparation

MODULE SEVEN: A Permanent Millstone

  • A Catch-22
  • Conversation Avoidance
  • The Perseveration Affect
  • Achieving Responses
  • Discussing Problems
  • Dealing with Conflict

MODULE EIGHT: The Cycle Ensnares

  • The Strength of Intermittent Schedules of Reinforcement
  • Endlessly Prompting
  • An Unrelenting Cycle
  • Born from Conflict
  • Cause of Conflict
  • A Parental/Caretaker Role

MODULE NINE: The Cycle Multiplies

  • Gottman’s Four Horsemen
  • Locked in Entangled Communication
  • The Imitating Normalcy Cycle
  • The Stonewalling Cycle
  • The Help Seeking Cycle
  • The Loss of Sense of Self Cycle

MODULE TEN: The Arrival of Cassandra

  • Challenges of a Needs Deprivation
  • The Cassandra Phenomenon
  • The Impressions Others Hold
  • Extended Family Systems
  • Childish Allusions
  • Notions of Irrationality


  • There is a Goldilocks Zone
  • Thriving
  • Depression and Looking Away
  • Surviving
  • Locking Out and Turning Away
  • Deteriorating

MODULE TWELVE: Nuts and Bolts

  • The Prompt Dependency Cycle
  • The Implications of The Prompt Dependency Cycle
  • The Outcomes of The Prompt Dependency Cycle
  • The Keys That Unlock Healthier Options
  • Two Models One Agenda
  • A Preview of What is To Come

Grigg, C. (2012). ASPIA’s Handbook for Partner Support: A Collection of ASPIA’s Best Information for the Support of Partners of Adults with Asperger’s Syndrome. Carol Grigg. www.aspia.org.au

Rodman, K. E. (2003). Asperger’s Syndome and Adults….. Is Anyone Listening?  [Book]. Jessica Kingsley Publishers.

Smith, R., Netto, J., Gribble, N. C., & Falkmer, M. (2020). ‘At the end of the day, it’s love’: An exploration of relationships in neurodiverse couples. Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10803-020-04790-z